Prepping for work this morning, I tune to Inspiration FM which is easily my fave radio station.
Two guys who I am NOT fans of were on. I think they were the same two guys who stood in for Wanawana when she was out for a while. I found them too garrulous so I stopped listening till she got back.
Well this morning they were on Dan Foster’s spot and the topic was Cheating. One of the guys told a story of an exam he had to write recently and he drew a blank. He also had no calculator so the invigilator allowed him use his phone. The lady trusted him to NOT google.
Just use the calc app to help. Being that he was blank, he considered cheating and googling up the answers. He most likely wouldn’t have been caught. So he posed the question, ‘what would you do if you were in same situation?’
Lemme share something I heard from my darling Pastor Bimbo (God rest her soul).
She used to tell us then that we can’t say we don’t steal (fornicate, cheat, etc) when we have NOT yet been put in a position when we can afford to get away with commiting such vices and we do NOT. No point claiming to be this or that when you have NOT been tried. Of course we recognize that there are some things one just knows that one cannot just do because of VALUES.
So people called in. My problem didn’t stem from the fact that some people said they will cheat. It came from two things…
1. The brazenness with which they said it and made it look like any other thing you did, you are just dulling and should be ashamed of your choice.
2. The way the presenters tackled anyone who claimed they would NOT cheat. Infact the ones that said they would cheat were praised for their honesty and ‘being true and being themselves’. The ones who mistakenly mentioned that they were Christians were tackled and I do mean TACKLED. ‘Are you Pope John Paul?’ ‘Are you saying you have NEVER cheated?’ ‘People sha like pretending’ ‘The way he even claimed to be Christian was not pure’ ‘Final exam ooo. You would repeat if you fail’ Chai. I was beyond mortified. They were NOT saying this just to TEST the people ooo. They were saying it as a yabis. One even said some exams are wired to enable cheating.
Does it ever occur to people that BEING YOURSELF can also be you telling the truth? If I called in, I would have BEEN myself totally. And being myself means I would NOT cheat. I won’t even consider it.
I was a diligent student so I studied usually, but even then because I had commitments in church and played politics too, I didn’t always study as much as I wanted to. I had drawn up incredible blanks in exams especially final year. I cried after some papers. In some instances, cheating would have been breeze. I didn’t even think in that line. My criminology lecturer (who I had intense love and respect for) would always say ‘It is more homorable to fail than to cheat’
In that final year, I had a GPA of 6.7/7.0 (UI uses 7.0 grading system not 5.0). Infact I had this confession in school, ‘Nobody that cheats has the right to score higher than me in ANY paper’. That’s why I made BEST GRADUATING STUDENT.
I’m allowed to brag some… Hehehehe
See eh, there is something called VALUE.
It guides your decisions whether people are watching you or not. It wasn’t because I was a Pastor in school that I didn’t cheat. I could have been in Kafanchan where no one knows me and still wouldn’t. I recall writing GCE. I had spanked WAEC but momma wanted me to write GCE just because…
In my centre, which had some ‘special candidates’ , they were telling them the answers.
Infact they separated us, and you need to see the way the ones who didn’t pay were hustling to get answers from the ‘special ones’. It was funny but sad too. I was too uninterested. Disgust must have shown on my face. One of the ladies came to me to ask why I wasn’t showing any interest in that charade. She now wanted to help me. I told her to shove it. I turned in my paper and walked out. It was day 1. I didn’t show up again. I couldn’t stand it abeg. I knew either I was beaten or I’ll slap someone. Hehhehe
Same with stealing. No matter how convenient, stealing won’t ever appeal to me.
Same with fornication or aristoism. It can’t appeal to me.
My point is Let your values guide you.
Values by the way is a positive term so good values is just tautology. Make your values. Stand by them even if unpopular. Never ever let anyone make you apologize for your values. And please teach your children same.
There is a paucity of role models out there. BE ONE… Posterity will thank you.
Stay FAB darlings
Inspiration FM annoys me some times. Today was one of those days. You guys claim tp be a family station. Imagine kids listening to that rubbish this morning….
Btw, dude finally said he didn’t cheat but anyi g’aju onye?
Always an Attitude o’ Gratitude starts tomorrow. Whoop. I am ready. Very ready… Feel free to use the comments section to be a part. Lets make this fun and inclusive… Deal?
Shout out to Tani who gave me dinner yesterday and took this picture hehehe
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