Sunday JOYS

I am supa dupa EXCITED… I love me a good story anyday. I also love LOVE… As in I am in love with LOVE… I am always excited when I see two people, Christians that is, in LOVE and loving the right way ooo not all these clowns with fake love we see these days in abundance. So when there is a good love story, aaaaaahhhhhh, YOU GOT ME BABY… I just heard an amazing love story on BR. BABES! Redefined that is. A Christian group for ladies on facebook. BABES is actually an acronym with B standing for BLESSED and S standing for SAVED!!! The rest I don’t wanna share with you jare especially cos of the guys reading this, hehehe. But really I love testimonies and I was thrilled when DCC announced that testimonies would be a regular feature of our services especially as the word for the year is I WILL TESTIFY!!! OK back to BR!
What happens there is that we gist about all things female with a godly view of course. People post stuff, people contribute and advise. It is a really cool group. So someone posted something in July last year. I will post verbatim. Of course I got permission… Let’s just call her BABES! TB Joshua (LOL I’m beinv creative)
I’ve never written here before but I’ve always followed every post and comment faithfully and I’ve being exceedingly blessed by the various advice given, and the variety of topics…this is one female christian forum in which nothing is too ‘hot’ to talk about. God bless the admins, the contributors and the one who had the vision for this forum.
I believe that this is the right place to share a huge problem that is bothering a dear friend to me. We became friends when I was new in this town, and she has been a great blessing to me. She and her fiance have courted for 3years now and the wedding is set for a month’s time, and I’m to be her maid of honour. According to her, she has always told her fiance about her desire to have a career, and he has never raised any objections but has encouraged her in her work. They have both spent time outlining how to balance their careers, to ensure that the children they have are not left unsupervised. She currently works for a multi national company in the oil and gas sector, and is seriously considering switching to NNPC despite the lower pay, because of the shorter working hours, at least until her future kids are abit grown. And has discussed this with her fiance also.
Two weeks ago, the fiance suddenly did a 360 and is now insisting that she resign completely from her job and become a stay-at-home mom, once they are married. His reason: he and his dad had a chat, and he was made to realise the error of his ways. A woman’s job, according to his dad, is take care of her home, kids and husband exclusively. A man’s job is to provide for his family and that it was heresy for the woman to work outside the home. Also he believes that working women would be proud and ungovernable, and would lord it over the husband. Her fiance’s mother has never worked for a day in her marriage. According to my friend, she tried to open a small shop that sells airtime in front of their house but her husband soon asked her to close it because it took her attention away from home. The future mother in law was a doctor before she got married.
My friend is so worried! She cannot imagine living the kind of life her fiance wants her to live, but the IV is out, introduction done, venue booked, her wedding gown bought etc. She has tried to plead her case to him, to no avail. Her own mom was a career woman and she and her siblings were never neglected, her mom always picked them up from school,and was quite strict with them and she was a manager in a publishing house.
Please any advice we have would really be appreciated. We’ve both been praying together for the last 3days but she is so scared of making the wrong decision.
The end…
Before you start vexing, wait till you hear the concluding part after which I will pick the holes glaring in this man’s point of view…
So BABES advised… Most if not all BABES told the girl to walk away. Me too. I mean, that was the first thing I thought. Because like my Pastor Bimbo drummed in our ears at single and married then, A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP is better than A BROKEN MARRIAgE. Simple. It is a hard decision for the now but it would pay off later and even better. Infact I think it is a good thing dude said this BEFORE the marriage and not after. That was God being very gracious and loving but hey she did not know it then.
Somewhere in the thread, BABES TB in tears said the girl, that is her friend had moved on and broken the relationship and of course it was a real hard decision to make. She had read all the counsel from BABES and also talked to her Pastor and family and other important people too. Recall my last post on NEVER WALK ALONE ( http://eziaha.wordpress.com/2013/01/12/never-walk-alone/ ). She said the guy said, AFTER SHE QUIT, that she could still work bla bla and his parents started spreading malicious news about her and stuff. She still moved on though. I can imagine how tough it must have been for the girl then. But God had a plan jare…
Fast forward to January 2013.
One of the Admins of the group asked BABES TB how far with her friend and how she was holding up. Here is Babes TB’s answer…
Yah!!! Babes forgive me! I completely forgot to give a recent update! My friend is getting married on February 16! Isnt our God amazing! Thank you so much Babes for praying and im sorry for not updating you all *CoversFace* Her hubby to be is a doctor who she has been friends with since they were kids. Unfortunately by the time bros realised he had strong feelings for her, she was already in a relationship with her ex. So he held his peace but never liked anyone else. So when her engagement was called off, he wasted no time in re-integrating himself in her life and making his intentions known. They had their introduction in December and she is sooo happy! She has always known him, and cant believe he was the one all along…lol! *HugeGrin*
Yea we ‘beefed’ Babes TB a bit for keeping such an amazing testimony away from BABES… But gosh we were happy. Deliriously happy. Over the roof happy. Infact one of the babes then that said she should move on added that God would do something and it may even be sooner than later. No kiddin’ Prophets dey that group… It was like a Holy ghost house party. Everyone was HAPPY and thankful. See comments na… Of course some of the babes had a few ‘carnal’ words for the guy… hehehe. See my own comment…
Babes Temini please just release the copyrights of this gist… Cos a lot of people would wanna share it on other Christian platforms. Permission granted? Thank you…
This is like a movie walahi… Nollywood aint got nothing on this… No Indian love story beats this…
Our God… He knew all this from the VERY beginning… Thank God your friend was ‘stupid’ enough to close her eyes and jump… With a faith that will NOT fail.
This God is faithful ooo. Nobody can convince me otherwise…
Btw babes pls dey share una testimony esp when we have prayed about it here. It helps others faith n also shows that God is right here on facebook…
I’m so encouraged…
Hugs, loves and kisses to u and ur friend… And marital bliss to her forever
And to the guy… Well I can only pray that God grants him the fortitude to bear this kinda huge loss on a blessing. And I also hope he learnt his lesson…
I’m abso-friggin-lutely EXCITED…
Chai…
Babes Eziaha.
Babes TB replied…
@All Babes that want to share. Please feel free to share! I know that this testimony has touched so many lives already so please spread the word on what God is ready to do to those who trust him absolutely no matter how difficult. Love you all babes. God is really awesome…
That is why I am sharing this here. I cannot hold my excitement. A lot of us are sharing it already hehehe.
Now let’s analyse this BOY… No you can’t tell me this is a MAN. MEN are not made of stuff like this. I still have a post pending which I will publish this week… ‘Don’t marry him if…’ One of the qualities I will discus there is don’t marry a MOMMY’S BOY… Or DADDY’S BOY in this case. Being a man is about making decisions as the HEAD OF THE HOME. Being the head like PK says is not about eating three pieces of meat while the rest eat one… as a man, who is married, THE BUCK STOPS ON YOUR TABLE NOW… No UNNECCSARY reference to mommy or daddy. Seriously I cannot stand such men. I am such a tough woman so when I see a weak man, I almost wanna slap their brains into shape. How can your DADDY tell you not to let your wife work? And that she would be UNGOVERNABLE… What are you? A tyrant or War Lord? See, I know some ladies are called to be housewives. I have a few aunties and stuff who are housewives but frankly they are of the previous generation. I have, in all sincerity, NOT seen any woman in this our generation who is truly called to ‘housewifeship’… Maybe she is just being lazy, but I am sorry I don’t think it is even wise in this generation. #mytwocents.
Like a BABES said, the man will soon tell them how and when to have sex…
Another babes said what will she be doing at home biko especially if the kids don’t start rolling in immediately. She will just sit down and be asking him for money for EVERY DARNED thing. Then one day the man will tell her ‘All you do is ask for and spend my money? Well I do not blame you. You do not know what it takes to work and earn money’ (Of course temporary and selective amnesia will make him forget that the lady was once working)
Then where did the Father in law get that gist that ‘A man’s job is to provide for his family and that it was heresy for the woman to work outside the home.’? Heresy? As in heresy? (gimme a minute lemme grab a dictionary and thesaurus). Plus a man’s job is NOT to provide for his family, his job is to BE THE HEAD… No? You are quoting Ist timothy 5v8 and 16 abi? Nah, the talk was on widows and not family. (Ok gist for another day. Shout out to PK. He made me see the truth in this scripture I misunderstood for like ever). But seriously this man fall my hand ooo. Real falling. I can pick a billion holes from this his father’s stand ooo. I can’t stand insecure men ooo. You close down even recharge card business in front of the house. And this woman spent all those years studying Medicine in school biko nu? Infact this Lady even was considering getting a lower paying job just to have enough time for family and kids especially(Pastor Bim would have loved you darling). How do you let such a woman slip? Who does that? Like I said, I hope he finds the fortitude to bear this loss… Huge loss ooo. And shout out to the lucky Doctor who found a virtuous woman. Maybe that Doctor dey for corner dey fire prayers to ’all his enemies’ hehehe. One man’s loss is the answer to another man’s prayers. God does have a sense of humor, deep one, which some may not even find remotely funny. Whatever sha, I am glad they both found each other. Big congrats to them and I wish them incredible joys of marriage. The marriage of their dreams.
No one quick question, how are this BOY’s parents even sleeping at night after letting this happen to their son? I really wonder how they sleep at night… mschewwwwwwwww
Happy Sunday to you darling’
E