If you know anything about me recently, you can’t miss my Lisa Bevere love!!! When it comes to writing, she is my numero UNO!!! She has a real gift. A rare one. Without Rival, her latest, which of course is a NYTimes Best seller is just another level of GOOD!!!
So one of the Chapters is Deep wells and Wishing wells, and an attempt to review will water it down too much. But after reading it, I committed to hanging out more intentionally at ‘deep wells’. Those women who have wisdom beyond me (especially learned from actual experiences), have gone ahead of me, give the right answers and ask the right questions, and are lavish enough to share. You know, I’m studying the Book of Proverbs this November, and it is amazing how we keep being advised to seek wisdom with everything we have. I am more committed now to my Sister Wisdom and hanging out at Deep wells is an amazing way to get wise.
We, Funto and I, got the awesome privilege to hang out with a Deep well, Debola deji-Kurunmi DDK.
I share how I connected with DDK here and here and here!!! Check it out. I recall when I reached out to her that Funto and I wanted to spend some time with her and I know how busy that mama is, so I didn’t expect it to be as soon as the next week. Her response has some humor but a wise person will pick the wisdom beneath…
‘Your gang be sweet one. I’d make out time…’
And she did!!! We hung out somewhere in Lekki and the last thing I wanted to be was LATE!!!
3hours later, I felt like like deep well myself. Hehe. We even forgot to order nada!!!
I didn’t think I would share what went down on my blog, so I wasn’t listening to share/blog. Something we writers, especially Christians, have to be wary off. We listen first for ourselves. And then if need be, we share.
The Word/Wisdom is first for eating, before dishing.
The timing for me was perfect for my season because DDK just affirmed a lot of things God had been telling me just the last 2weeks or so.
Ok, there was a lot I gleaned but let me highlight three things.
The beauty of it all was that this was all organic!!! Nothing forced or scripted. She was just gisting and I felt like I was in a Leadership and Ministry MBA course.
1. Building Capacity
Say you are a Speaker, blogger, or whatever, and you have an event. You don’t just start praying for God to download for that one-day event. Because when God downloads, you can only take in as much as your current capacity, no matter how much God drops. That’s why it is soooooo important we build spiritual capacity. So when it is ‘show time’, our small capacity does not constrain us and all He wants to do through us. And capacity is NOT built in ONE day of speaking in tongues. It comes from our daily spiritual disciplines of praying, fasting, going on personal retreats, bible studies, more prayers, etc. Build enough capacity, and then continue to build, so that I can stay receiving in large doses from God.
I love this quote she dropped
‘If you don’t retreat, you will soon retreat…’
2. Striking a balance, especially if you are one of those who do a lot…
DDK has 3major babies and she says that wisdom means that sometimes, one baby gets more attention than the rest for a season, because it needs it. I did a post on BALANCE here inspired by Priscilla Shirer. Maybe it is new, it is expanding and structures are being put in place, or it just needs that TLC. Give it, without feeling bad at the lack of attention to the other babies, because you are still gonna get to them. That goes without saying that we need to put solid structures in place as we build. Structuring takes time but it is so worth it because even as you expand, it all fits into that structure still, so all we need to do is add more hands. Now the crazy thing is that I had spent some time with Pastor M some days earlier and she told me this same expansion and structure thing. As Pastor M explained, I legit had a headache. My mind could not take it. But I got home and I started to pray again that my mind needs to start thinking bigger. And God started that expansion process because as DDK explained to me in more detail, I didn’t have a headache. If anything, I had many light bulb moments. You see how this drives home my point 1 above? You can only receive as much as your current capacity. At the time Pastor Mildred spoke, my capacity was small. Then I went into my prayer place, prayed, confessed, then ‘Show time with DDK‘, I got it!!!
3. When God tells me to do something, I truly believe I am the woman to do it. Then I have enough RESPEK for myself to not let myself down. I actually say ‘No Debola, you said you will do this. You promised yourself to get it done, so do it!!!’
This was my BEST lesson. You see ehn, this is another level of commitment. Just between me and God. No Pastor needs to prod me, no friend needs to encourage me, and this is not to discount all of that. This is about believing God has anointed you for the task, and then respecting yourself enough to stick it out. I could have started running round that place from joy OVERFLOW.
You see, I KNOW this in a very personal way!!! When I am learning to stay empty handed, while I take lions apart. Just me and God. Because honey, they are days when we will have absolutely NO BODY!!! More on this in a different post.
She shared many more but I can’t share all. I especially love something she said on having an ‘exit strategy’ for unserious mentees. Oh she downloaded some major mentoring wisdom. I pray Funto shares.
DDK is such a deeeeeeeeeeeeeeep well.
Which is why UPSTREAM is basically unmissable for me.
Too many Deep wells coming. People DDK calls mentors and fathers??? I am already there.
Upstream is the National summit for women in leadership, enterprise and ministry from the stables of one of her babies, Deborah Initiative.
I loooooove that it is for 2days
Friday November 11th and Saturday 12th.
Just see the crazy lineup!!! I don’t even know how DDK pulls such women together!!!
Oh I know!!! She is not a joker-mentee. When you mentor know say you be ‘sweet gang’, they rearrange their calendar for you…
Debola Deji Kurunmi
Time is 9.30 am both days so plan to attend. I wish I can promise to blog about it, but I can’t. Except God releases such grace like He did for Prophetic Motherhood. I still can’t believe how I blogged those!!! Like Pastor Dotun Arifalo read it and asked for my number. It was funny.
I looove writing sha. Tz a sweet gift.
Hey, if you come, say Hi if you see me. I’ll be there both days. Yaaaaas!!! With my Romantic Covenant Sister Funto. Lol.
‘I knew you guys just met each other. You are always gushing about each other on Social media so I know the love is new. But it is OK because you guys are modelling to the world what Christian friendship should be like…’
(Funny Pastor M said this same thing to me. D modelling part ie.)
I sooo laughed when DDK said it. Like gushing??? Haha. Somebody come get Funto away from me ooo!!!
Oh but seriously though, when a deep well like DDK calls for a meeting, and has even deeper wells as Speakers, you clear out your schedule and attend. Two meetings with DDK set the course for my year and life. Even if the devil himself enter road, I’m already there. Lol.
So come ehn!!! Tz thes kinda meetings we who are tryna be deep wells attend.
Countdown baby!!! 3days to Upstream. And please spread word. Attendance is free, so come. If Friday ain’t an option, Saturday should work.
Had an amazing photo shoot this weekend yo!!! If I put up one of the pic, it will take away focus from the ‘meat’ of the post so just enjoy the makeup and samurai sword. Can’t even wait for them pix!!!
I will be on Happenings Radio Wednesday at 10am.
Will be speaking on Navigating foods and avoiding fad diets in in quest for weight loss.
Radios.happenings.com.ng is the listen link so tune in!!! And call in to. Will be on air with one of my students who had tried it all before CoachE’ and now 3months with me and she has lost about 13kg.
Can’t wait. 10am guys. Wednesday October 9th
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