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10,000 Teachers guys…Stay HUNGRY! Lean IN!! Go HARD!!!

After all, you have 10,000 teachers/guides/tutors/instructors/Chrises/Joyces to direct/lead you…1Cor 4:15

Guys, I WISH I was doing a vlog instead on this topic!!! I want you to SEE my heart and how it beats about this. But since I ain’t doing no vlog, I just pray that my writings are alive indeed… AMEN!!!
(But I’m gonna start vlogging soon. As soon as I get my nails done. Hahahahaha)

Can I just start by saying that in this day, age and time, you are absolutely INEXCUSABLE if you are ignorant?
Gosh, information is absolutely EVERYWHERE all thanks to technology. One of my biggest 2016 lessons has to be ‘When the student is ready, the teacher will appear’. 


But what we have these days are a bunch of lazy people who want you to spell EVERYTHING out to them personally and won’t do no work. 
You know, I listen to PK a lot and have for at least 5years.


There was a time he used to go on about how people come to him for counselling on BBM or so and he tells them ‘oh I have this EXACT message/book where I dealt with it indepth. Please get it’. And then the comedian will say ‘ehn Pastor just type it out for me now’
I mean, REALLY???
Even if PK was jobless. 
I can’t tell you how many times this has happened to me. 
You send me a message telling me this and that and I tell you ‘oh I blogged about THIS exact thing last week’ or ‘lemme recommend this video on YouTube. Please download and watch’ then the person tells me to please just type it out for her. 
Or tries to make me think her own is unique.
No hun, it is NOT!!!
I mean, aside this being unfair and impractical, it is just you being lazy. 
Only this year, I’ve had at least THREE encounters where I have suggested ways and the person makes it look like ‘what am I doing now that I can’t answer again’ and I am just W O W E D!!!
Then the next thing is ‘what am I even feeling like blablabla’
One person actually basically called me proud!!!

Phew… thank God I am F R E E of people pleasing. I have a darn good relationship with God and a resident holy ‘pokenoser’ in the person of the HolySpirit.


Do you KNOW how many questions I wanna ask Joyce? Or Chris? Or Heather?

But I KNOW that these people have a TON of resources ONLINE and if I put in the effort, I will find it. So I won’t waste my time disturbing their peace with long emails. 
Except of course to tell them how absolutely amazing they are. 

Like I say, when the student is ready, the teacher appears. 

Look, literally we have TEN THOUSAND teachers, resources, etc to guide us through life. 


There was just this time I needed incredible wisdom on some certain issues in my marriage. And wham, God led me to Heather. She had some videos from the marriage retreat last year and God used those videos to answer EVERY question I had. 
Another time, I had some questions of balancing life and everything. Priscilla literally read my mind and answered it in a video. 


God didn’t open my browser and chuk the video there. I went searching and God led me to my answers. 
Infact there was this night I worried so much about something till I got a headache. I slept and the next morning, God told me to go watch a certain video. The title had NOTHING to do with my issue but I obeyed. 
It was JUST one line the speaker said and my answer came with PEACE!!!
Sooooo many times I am stuck about something and as I listen to PK or Rev, I get clarity. I don’t have to blow up their phones to get my answers. I can go HARD on their resources and get my answers. 
Same thing!!!

Sometimes if I can’t find something, I actually ask one of my many teachers ‘Please can u RECOMMEND any resource/book/study on XXX
I think for me that marks a healthy mentee. Most mentors LOVE that. It shows you are hungry and teachable. Not lazy and lazy.
Recently I did that to one of my mentors. I just needed to go HARD on a particular topic so I asked for references. 
There is absolutely NOTHING you should be permanently lacking knowledge in today. 
You have wayyyy too many teachers at your disposal.
Literally 10,000
Instead you prefer to use your data to watch nonsense on YouTube and waste away on Twitter. Don’t get me wrong, have your lil’ social moments. But when you find yourself lacking on any topic, find your teachers, lean all the way into them, and GO HARD!!!

Stay hungry guys. Don’t always want a QUICK FIX!!! Put in some effort and you will see your teachers. 

Sometimes, you may even find your ‘Elizabeth’. The person who makes the baby in your womb leap. 

And when you find them, stay even hungrier. STALK them!!!


Some of my teachers and ‘Elizabeths’ are Heather, Joyce, Chris and Shirer. 


Shirer and Meyer

Best thing about Americans (and well Greeks lol) is that they are quite OPEN in sharing their lives, both the good and the ugly. We Africans have a more ‘hiding’ culture. So info on them are plenty. 

Look, I am sure I can author a tidy biography of these ones. 
If you check my phones, my laptop, my journal, my browser history, you will drown in teachings from these women. 
Guys, I go hard, I lean all the way in and dig deep!!!
When I listen, I listen for the ‘story behind the story’. 


Same way if I need wisdom on a certain area eg in raising my boy, I get on YouTube and find Christian resources. Or just Google. 
I go hard, get scriptures and go get a Doctorate on it. 

Recently, I had challenges with just running my home. One morning, I switched off every distraction and sat with Proverbs 31 and Titus 2. Then God led me to some resources and blogs online. Wham!!! Questions answered. Wisdom downloaded.

I pray to do the post God gave me from that encounter.. ‘ Home maker with a sense of purpose’ (may rename tho)

I didn’t leave my job in the UN in Abuja even when doors were opening for me, and relocate to‎ Lagos to be slothful in ‘business’. MBA, I am crazy with getting wisdom and knowledge. 

Lemme just share this I picked up from Diche, Pastor M’s sis.


She’s an amazing script writer and so she said after seeing War room, she went to see it again, this time as a professional/scriptwriter. A CHRISTIAN one. She wanted to LEARN more about the craft from a Christian perspective so she was going hard on the Kendrick brothers.


I recall she asked me quite some questions too and from time to time when I run into some professional info she could use on them, I share with her. 
(for instance, any near romantic scene you see in any Kendrick brothers’ movie, they use a body double, the spouse. Eg that kissing scene in Fire Proof. He kissed his real wife. That moment between Liz and Tony when he was apologising in War room, it was his wife’s leg he was romancing not Shirer’s. Etc. Lol I went HARD on War room. )

Frankly I am a certified stalker. Some of my ‘teachers’ are Christian bloggers. The way I folow Inthe’s blog ehn. I’m sure I can be arrested. Ditto Pastor M. And Dr. N. I learn. I apply. I connect the dots. I see the ‘whys, how’s, etcs’
I’m the crazy person that would remind you of something you blogged about 3years ago. Haha

One of my mentees is crazy like me. Dee.
When she reminds me of something I blogged about, I’m like ‘hi stalker‘ Haha. But I absolutely LOVE her for that. She makes me soooo happy to mentor her. She won’t just say ‘mama I love your post’ or ‘that was for me’. She will give me details of what she loves and how she applies it in her life. 
Gosh, she makes my heart so happy. 
I’m soooo proud of her. Even when I delay in answering her, you bet she will keep on reminding me. 
Any mentor would LOVE you for that. And even seek more ways to bless you. Because you can see a HUNGER!!!
OK back to my teachers. 
These are women in ministry and so I’m not just hearing the word, I’m learning how they treat their husbands, run their homes, recruit staff, spend their quiet time, relate with their mentors, how they spend vacation, raise their kids, relate with their girlfriends, early days in minstry, turning point in ministry, why they live where they live, etc. I also do a lot of ‘connect the dots’ from various messages. So you and I can listen to the same message but we sure didn’t get the same thing. 
At all!!!


Joyce and Chris

I dig real deep and go hard!!!
Infact I literally start studying for a Doctorate. I stalk articles written about them by people who met them either formally or informally. 
Recently, I have been on Joyce and Chris. Oh I just finished with Heather and I’m applying all the knowledge I got from her openness about her marriage and home. So my study on her has paused for now. 
Just on Monday, I was cyber stalking Joyce and Chris….
Oh before I go on. How these two met amazes me. 


About 20years ago, Joyce was attending a conference by the church where Chris was a youth leader. Babe made herself the person chosen to drive Joyce from the hotel to the venue and kept believing for it even though they had told her she won’t drive her. She saved up for weeks and kept detailing her car daily for two weeks in the hope and expectation she will drive Meyer. As God would have it, the night before, she got a call that she would drive her. 
Pick up time? 8am. 
Chris arrived at 530am because she didn’t wanna be late. She said she borrowed a suit because she didn’t have money for one. 
Then went to stand 3doors away. Joyce sees her when she came out to get her brekkie and again when she rolled the trolley out. Of course Chris kept flinging her face. 
Then Joyce walked up to her and asked if she was there for her. Long story short, mama invited her into her room, they got talking and that my people birthed this absolutely beautiful and refreshing ‘Mother-daughter’ relationship I covet with all my soul.


Chris actually says she had been a Mentee of Joyce LONG before she met her.


She followed her teachings and books sooo closely and so you can imagine the kinda conversation that would have happened that fateful morning in that Hotel room that made Joyce literally adopt her and start supporting her ministry. 
You know, some of you are real comedians. You ask the funniest shallow questions and conversations with your teachers. 
How was your night?
Happy birthday!!!
Have a great week!!!
What did you eat?
I’m puling out my dreadlocks!!!
Can anyone imagine what would have been coming out of Chris’s mouth that day in the Hotel room?
Plus both have similar pasts of sexual abuse
Some of you sef have mentors and teachers you NEVER visit or lean into personally even when they have given you the gift of access especially on Social media. You abuse it by asking stupid questions or even worse, FOR MONEY. But you are happy to say ‘I have XXX on my BBM’ or ‘XXX follows me on Twitter or IG’ or I have YYY’s number. 
Have you actually ‘used‘ that teacher well?
Do you ‘study‘ his/her updates and posts?
Do you ‘see’ a pattern in how that person lives?
Do you ask vital questions that gets the person’s heart happy to answer you?
Do you MAKE the effort to book a LIVE session and actually SEE that person???
You see Rev!!! I follow Rev like a tradition. If I have to push myself some, I do, and attend a meeting he is preaching at in my location. Just to be physically enriched listening to him. 


And the best part about a hungry student is the fact that the teacher is going to start looking out for you too. 
Rev had told me three weeks earlier that he would be in DCC that last Sunday. I cleared out everything. I had to see him. Not for anything but just to SEE him. E don Tey. 
Now you see the funny thing, I had questions on some areas in life and my Rev covered it in his message. 


Plus I got him to pray a blessing over my family too. 

Don’t confuse having someone on your social media with actual relationship ooo. There are some things we would NEVER hear/say on Social Media ooo.

Of course we can’t discount SM relationships(that’s all I have FOR NOW with those four ladies I mentioned) but what if one day God gives me a chance to meet them, you bet they will adopt me. 
As either sister or daughter.
Cos they will be like ‘this girl is ready for some real one-on-ones. She is really HUNGRY!!!’

Side story: I recall the day Pastor M introduced me to PC, the choir director in DCC Island.


As we spoke, I kept downloading info on his career and album to me and he was like ‘ ah, you really dug deep ooo‘. I just smiled. I told yawl I was a stalker. Haha.

If I get on your case, forgerrit. 
Ditto when I used to stalk Funmi Iyanda. I ended up anchoring her show, New Dawn.


Too tired to look for clearer pictures

Because after studying and stalking, I sent her the kind of email she would LOVE to read and wham, I get invited on set. 
Awesome. Stalker. Chick. 
Side story over. 

Was talking to one of my mentees late last year. She is number one on BBM to wish me happy new month, good morning, blessed day, how are you, etc. Then an opportunity came for her to actually VISIT with me and sister girl stood me up soooo many times. I told her that look, sending me have a nice day and God bless you and how are you is not where this whole thing starts and stops. 

You can NOT claim a relationship with me if you can’t gooooo hard to meet me. Forget shyness or feeling inadequate (she would later confess that to me). Mehn, don’t let the devil make you miss out on stuff with lies ooo. 

I recall when I was into Stars and Celebs. I absolutely adored 2Face and then somehow a friend invited me to a Christmas party he was performing at. Trust me, the security was plenty around him but if I tell u the stunts I pulled to reach him and take a picture ehn. I tell you, even Tu was surprised. He kept on WOW’ing. 


But you see, I wanted a picture. I got a picture. 
Ditto when I was at an event with Stella Damasus. I walked right up to the front, in the middle of the ongoing event ooo, and requested her to snap with me. I didn’t care who was looking or not looking. (Can’t find that picture)
I wanted it. I went for it. 
Today I don’t care for entertainment stars. Lol. I actually cringe at how I used to follow all these musicians then. Hahahaha. 
I care for my Elizabeths today tho. I am HUNGRY!!! I go HARD!!! I study them. 
Someday, if I am opportuned to meet them, I’ll be soooo ready with the kinda questions that would get them to adopt me. 
Oh I was gonna tell a Monday afternoon story. 
I was cyberstalking my mama and sister when I ran into this blog. (Joyce is my mama and Chris is my Greek Aussie sister) The blogger was actually one of the 20 invited to a mentorship forum all day with Joyce and Chris. And she shared her experience. 


It was beautiful. All day with Joyce and Chris. With them pouring into you and answering questions!!!???
I jumped up from my bed and flew to Laterna, bought a journal and called it my Mentorship 101 journal.  


There I would write out lessons from the everyday lives of these women. 
And my other teachers and mentors. 
I have never been more excited at a black leather bound journal in my life. 

And you see, this doesn’t only go for ministers and preachers. 
Are you a TV presenter? Who are your ‘elizabeths’ or teachers in that field? Find them and go hard!!!
Follow them on every available platform they have. Write tips. Study them. 
You don’t have to copy their entire lives. Be led by God on what to emulate and what to nicely ignore. 
The Internet has made information cheap. Infact it is so cheap we despise it. 
This also applies to our spiritual life. 
If there is any area you feel you are lacking in, sit down. Get scriptures. Get materials. Go on YouTube. Type in keywords and let the Holy Spirit lead you to the perfect one for you. 
The beautiful thing is that God has sooooo many preachers. I mean the variety is beautiful but the message is the same. If you don’t like A, try Q. 
And even if you don’t like A now, you may like him later. I didn’t like Joseph Prince before. Now I drool. Literally!!! 


Handsome? Check
Funny? Check
Worded? Check Check Check!!!

Ten thousand teachers guys!!! 10,000!!!
You must find your specs among them.

Don’t die in your ignorance. Don’t let laziness or whatever rob you of your blessings. 
And this even also applies to the seemingly mundane stuff. 

I recall when I was looking for a help, I spoke to at least THREE Christian wives/moms for counsel. Had not been down that road before and they had so they became my instructors. 
Look out for this. Be careful of this. Etc. 
Infact just before I settled for one, I still rang one of them and as we talked she advised me on how to control those ‘off days’ issue. 
I mean the wisdom she gave was so sound that even my bestie had to applaud it. 
Some of yawl are way too proud. 
You won’t humble yourself with your teachers. You call them once, twice they don’t pick and wham, ‘who does she think she is sef’
Well, she’s apparently she’s all that which is why you are calling her. 
Like PK said once, that person is obviously busier than you so be persistent. But not stupid. 
Don’t give 12 missed calls at once. 
Call once, twice. Then send a text. 
If response is delaying, pray and/or send a gentle reminder. 

Don’t abuse a relationship. Don’t abuse access. Don’t just give up because you feel the person is being proud. Sometimes they aren’t. They are actually busy. Or they wanna see how serious you are. 

Don’t ask for money. Had to call out someone who did this. You don’t ask your mentors or teachers for money, no matter the good deed of saving the world you wanna do. You ask them for WISE counsel. And prayers. 
Imagine if Chris started asking Joyce for money? Haha. 
You see, Joyce’s ministry has actually partnered with Chris’s since that meeting to fight human trafficking. I’m sure Joyce saw sincerity and her spirit and decided to work with her. 
Please don’t spoil a mentoring relationship by asking for money. Ask for wisdom. And as God leads them, they may actually decide to bless you financially. 
Then when corrected, repent!!!
Don’t now start acting funny.

Moving on, also fight to get what you want from your teachers. 
There have been TONS of people who send me invites to speak here or write there. 3 missed calls later, they move on. Or maybe they asked me a question on this or that or want me to help with this and that and a few ‘unavailable’ moments make them fashi me totally. 
Makes me laugh how easily people give up. 
Guys, how BAD do we want this?
Can you FIGHT for what you want?
The proof of anything is your desire and how much you are willing to fight for and pursue it. 
A good mentor will pick up on that.

Frankly if I need something from you, I will fight to get it. 
I don’t care how busy you are. I will be persistent. Cutely so. You must answer me. It also helps that I have a great personality and know how to build and maintain relationships (I’m taken tho. Incase there are new guys reading this blog. )
Ah some of yawl give up too easily. It makes my heart break. 


Imagine if Caine gave up on fighting to drive Meyer, just because of a few NOs!!!
Oh my!!!
Funny story. 
Nick, Chris’s hubby actually did go hard in his pursuit for Caine. In Bible school, she was his teacher and he fell in love with his teacher (same age tho). So he did some sneaking and found out from her best friend that she went swimming everyday at 6am. That’s how dude started forming 6am faithful swimmer too. Took his chances one early morning and now claimed that he LOVED swimming EVERY morning at 6am so that meeting was purely coincidental. 


Both of them are 50 this year

20years married now and bae says not ONCE in their marriage has Nick stood up to go swimming at 6am. 
But you see, for what he wanted, he was willing to go HARD. He literally went HARD on his teacher. Haha. 
Let me not go into how absolutely fruitful that union has been. 
Nick is handsome tho. Choi!!!

When I started my weightloss journey too, I went hard with my teachers. And they were a LOT. 
So many resources available even in Nigeria from BBM channels to blogs to Instagram etc. I meant business and any ‘teacher’ I encountered, I bookmarked. And followed as God led me. I don’t even have to like you. But if you have anything I need, I learn.


Some of yawl wanna lose weight but you want me to spoon feed you every thing. Even when I say it is on my blog, some people won’t visit, they will still come and ask me questions. 
Oh my generation can be L A Z Y!!!
I’m just saying it as it is. Me inckudu
Sometimes too, people flat out tell me ‘Eziaha, I want you to mentor me’ and I’m like ‘oh cool. Praise God’ 
Then they actually want me to be the one chasing them. 
This life is funny ooo!!! Hahahahahaha. 
Lemme just explain something incase the long story above hasn’t explained enough. 
You CHASE your mentors. They don’t chase you. You are the one who needs this and that. When they see your eager spirit, they open up even more. 
Not that first few days, you are alright. By day 3 you disappear. .Mehn, I can’t!!! 
No wonder some Pastors lament. It must be real hard with some mentees.

I’m just thrilled when I see thriving healthy mentor-mentee relationships. Where the mentor glows about the mentee. I did a post about it here (Give them something to be proud about)I see that between Rev and PK. Rev and Rev Victor. And of course Joyce and Chris. 


Gosh Joyce is soooo proud of Chris and Chris literally CHASES Joyce. Even till tomorrow. 
Tz sooo beautiful. 


You know ehn, Rev is my numero uno. If I go to him on any matter, I OBEY.


Infact, I get into trouble with myself cos once he has counselled me, end of discussion. No matter how hard, I obey and give him feedback. 
Some of yawl just disappear after your teacher has poured into you.  Then when another wahala bursts, you come again. 
No. Give feedback. Sometimes Rev can give me a short answer or even not respond but I make sure he gets my feedback. 
If he mentions any resource or preacher, I go look for the person. Or stuff. I follow. I obey. And hard too. Because frankly Rev is not just my teacher, He is MY FATHER!!!


For even though you have ten thousand teachers, you do not have many fathers. For I became your Father in Christ…1 Cor 4:15

Which brings me to my next point. 
With all the many teachers all over the globe, you need a ‘Father’ (it could be female). Someone who knows you and can vouch for and mentor you personally. 
It would be funny if all I claim is Meyer and Chris. 
No, I have Rev. I have my Pastor M. I have PK. I have Pastor B.



These people are my ‘Fathers’. I am their daughter in Christ. If something is killing me, I fly to them as the Lord leads me. 
One of the BIGGEST issues I have faced in my life has to be my Ex. He somehow came back into my life after he got married and from ‘we are just friends’ clap entered dance. 
Worst part? It was mutual. Even worse from his end. 
People, I struggled!!! It was soooo HARD to shake him. Ask my best friend Valerie. And to think this was someone I didn’t sleep with ooo. 
So one night, I got tired of struggling. I sent a message to Rev and confessed my sins. Next day, I’m in counselling in his office, bawling my eyes out. 
He kept passing the box of tissues and listening patiently. Few words and a prayer later, I received strength to shake the brother off!!!
No judgement. No guilt tripping me. 
No indulging me either. Just plain Father’s love. 

Guys, you need that kinda person in your life. 
And to make that above story less interesting, I was SINGLE then!!!
But hey, I could have been married too. The moral of the lesson there is HAVE A FATHER too!!! One who can closely mentor you one-on-one. But be a teachable and cool daughter or son too. 
And something else you can pick from that story is this
Rev is the BEST anyone can have out there.


Rev& PM

I’m so thankful for him. 

Before this turns into a full blown book, let me end by saying that God (best still the Holy Spirit) is our ultimate Teacher. No human is perfect but God can lead and guide you on how to relate with your teachers. 
Let Him lead you to other teachers per time. 
So be sure to live LED!!!
I think I can sneak in a Caine video before I sleep. 
Yup? Nah. I am sooo sleepy. Tz 1am.
You can enjoy this short one. A clip from Joyce’s conference 30th anniversary. 

Chris is too funny I tell ya. 
Funny story? Just as I put this post together, I bumped into a short vlog by Chris on, wait for it, Christian MENTORING. 
Was just telling my best friend Enny that Chris must have somehow read my post even though her video is some 2years old I think. 

Cool stuff. Told you she was my twin. 
Plus tz funny that Joyce and Chris both have the same deep masculine voice lol

Guys sleep calleth.
Love yawl like crazy.
God loves you too.


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  • Reply
    February 4, 2016 at 12:13 am

    I am short of words to say…but all that came to my head is God bless E for me! #hugs

    • Reply
      February 4, 2016 at 7:19 am

      Bless you sis.

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    February 4, 2016 at 12:24 am

    Thank you so much.God bless you….

    • Reply
      February 4, 2016 at 7:19 am

      God bless you too

  • Reply
    February 4, 2016 at 4:14 am

    I have been reading your posts since a friend sent me a link of one of your blog posts! Yeah! Haven’t given a thought to comment on any, but this i gatta say,blessed me tremendously. Thankyou.

    • Reply
      February 4, 2016 at 7:20 am

      Awwww Suo from Dr. N?
      Thanks for commenting .
      Thank you

      • Reply
        February 4, 2016 at 8:56 pm

        ? Nah! That’ll be Dr T(Tamie), don’t even know if she goes by that on social media. Lol! Tamie i see your comment up there?.
        God bless your pulpit Eziaha! You’re touching the world.

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          February 6, 2016 at 5:40 am

          Awww amen!!!
          Tamie darling. Thank you so much.
          And suo, don’t be a stranger ooo. Your comments are beautiful.

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    Naija Cheapskate
    February 4, 2016 at 5:32 am

    This post long o. I shall be back with paper and pen

    • Reply
      February 4, 2016 at 7:20 am

      Yes mama
      Settle down and read.
      BTW long time ooo

  • Reply
    February 4, 2016 at 6:01 am

    Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
    God bless you big time! I’ve actually been having issues with this particular topic and to be honest, you’ve answered all my questions. I’ve been stalking people that mentor me from afar, and I’ve been tempted to stop. But, as you asked, what if I get to meet them one day, will I be saying “Oh, your hair is so nice, how much is it?”
    The person will just walk out! Lol!
    Let me go and share this with my sisters in Christ!
    Love ya! Muah!

    • Reply
      February 4, 2016 at 7:23 am

      My dear I absolutely agree.
      I mean u can like the hair and nails set but don’t make it the MAIN THING. Which one is how much is it?
      But frankly tho, I don’t even care for hair or stuff. I just wanna pick their brains.
      I’m so super glad the post ministered.
      Thanks for sharing love

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    February 4, 2016 at 6:58 am

    Thanks a lot for this post

    • Reply
      February 4, 2016 at 7:21 am

      Thanks for reading

  • Reply
    February 4, 2016 at 7:49 am

    Good bless u ma,u are really an inspiration ,i want to ask ma if u have any plans starting a mentorship group again.

    • Reply
      February 4, 2016 at 9:08 am

      My dear I was supposed to add that to the post ooo but I was really sleepy.
      Yes I am.
      Watch this space

  • Reply
    February 4, 2016 at 7:58 am

    God bless u ma for this post,seems u really took time in writting this ,am thinking u should write a book,u write like an author ma,my God continue to grant u wisdom,i want to know if u have any plans mentoring again.

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    February 4, 2016 at 8:07 am

    My name even entered? See me O! Lol
    In truth, Go Hard is d message
    Jesus said “My father is always working, so I am working”
    You cannot ask God to pity u, he built d capacity in u so He knows what u can do n He is glorified by passion.
    E I celebrate your passion. May it put money in your pocket and an inheritance for your generation in Jesus name

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      February 4, 2016 at 9:09 am

      Gosh amen amen
      Awww Dr. N ur comments are always so powerful.
      Thank you so much
      Gosh!!! I celebrate you

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    Johnson Ifeanyi Madichie
    February 4, 2016 at 8:21 am

    E nwanem has done it again. Thorough one. Needed to hear that. Joseph Prince Def my biggest mentor on this post. Biggups E.

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      February 4, 2016 at 9:11 am

      My hands are up Egbon
      Should I bring it down???
      Prince is just IT!!!

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    February 4, 2016 at 8:24 am

    Steve Harris said something on radio,u are meant to b chasing ur mentors,not them chasing u,u have got to go d extra mile to get wat u want from them,he gave an example of fela durotoye how he did alot of research on him,d mistake we make is dat we want our mentor do everytin for us,we should be able to do d work for ourselves,i think persitence is d key,love u E.

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      February 4, 2016 at 9:09 am

      Steve really chased fela

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    February 4, 2016 at 8:29 am

    In this world ehn,there are people and there are people.those who fare better have mentors.those that have walked the path.,it makes it easier for you.its good to follow them with sense and respect.naturally the soul wants information howevr the info u choose to feed it solely depends on u.I have this christian musicians I absolutely love!For King and Country. I follow their tours etc,watched Joel Smallbone movies,same goes for Casting Crowns,and my Darling Rick Warren.i recently started loving Kenneth Copeland,n m absolutely sprung.i receive newsletters,same with Rick’s.n I have to say I have been a better person since.

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      February 4, 2016 at 9:10 am

      Variety is so the spice of the kingdom.
      Rick warren??? Choi Vee I envy you.
      I can’t wait to follow him.
      He’s on my future list

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    February 4, 2016 at 11:02 am

    Wow….So you dey do wetin I dey do… Once I have someone on my radar, I go stalk you scarra…lol Ask Richard Branson, Emeka Nobis, Steph Obi, etc I want to get the message behind the message…hehehe.. Babe you hit the nail on the head real hard. I have been planning how to dish out this talk to all my students or rather ex students.. you know i’m into empowerment na.. last week or so I decided to check.on my ex students and one had the guts to tell me I don’t care how she’s doing I abandoned her. It took grace for me to mildly tell her not to abuse priviledge but I was angry… Mehn till date i’m still all over my own teacher, I no dey gree her rest despite the fact that she can’t do without me… not a day goes without both of us talking, sounding out a business idea n all. I opened a Whatsapp group for all my ex students to interact but just few actually do and truth is I focus on those who reach out to me. You don’t wait for your mentor to chase you bikonu… the rate of laziness I see these days is so annoying. Infact after reading this post I have started a post for them… they have to sit up jare. That been said, some of the message here is also for me.. I have been lazy in some aspects n i’m.so sitting up. 2016 not a dulling yr…. God bless you darl.

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      February 4, 2016 at 11:19 am

      Yes oooo I dey do am.
      Stalker us. We hope they don’t arrest us hahaha.
      Well cyber stalk equals cyber arrest.
      Mehn those ones that said we abandoned them ehn. Choi. Tz just grace. Someday they will grow too.
      Thanks girl.
      Love your comment

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    February 4, 2016 at 12:01 pm

    So here I was reading the blog jeje then my face pops up ? lol I was really shocked. Awesome post dear, well done. Plus am still on that Kendrick brothers journey o! Pushing till I replicate ?

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      February 6, 2016 at 5:34 am

      Hahahahahahaha I thought you would be.
      I love you mama.
      Just remember to feature me AND all my kids in ALL your movies.
      Cameo roles but professional fees.
      Can I get an AMEN!!! Haha

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        February 10, 2016 at 3:14 am

        Amen! Lol sure thing dear, with you larger than life personality I’m sure we can find a role for u *mwah! *

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          February 11, 2016 at 10:44 am

          I love you diche

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    February 4, 2016 at 3:01 pm

    Just wow!
    So much I would want to say. But lemmi just say the day I found your blog some years ago, I knew I had found GOLD. I remember saying to my self if she can be God sold like this what’s my excuse…
    Since then, your ‘message’ delivery has been a hit back to back! Well done.

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      February 4, 2016 at 3:08 pm

      Not just well done. God bless you. Mega!!

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      February 6, 2016 at 5:35 am

      OK I am framing this comment.
      The ‘hit back to back’ got me rolling.
      Awwww boo thank you soooo much.
      And thank God.
      Hugs n kisses

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        February 6, 2016 at 11:20 am

        Lol @ framing..

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    February 4, 2016 at 6:43 pm

    Yayyyyyyy, Looooong posts are back on E’s blog…. long and beautiful with pictures… this post is a bestseller Eziaha Nne…

    I know writing is your gift but that doesn’t mean that writing comes easy especially when you have a handsome and hand full son like King Daveed as well as the other hundred things one has to do on a daily basis….so this is me saying I appreciate the post and the pains/ grace you took to write it…

    Well done!

    May this post come alive for everyone who reads it and may the Divine purpose for which you wrote it, bring glory to GOD our Father, Amen

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      February 6, 2016 at 5:36 am

      Yes they are back ooooooooooooo
      No mama it don’t come easy.
      BTW u and I, I was sleeping as I was typing.
      That it came out this good means only one thing…the Holy Spirit pushed me out of the way and hijacked it.
      Thank you sooooo much Ify. God bless you

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    February 4, 2016 at 7:12 pm

    Reblogged this on shugarythots and commented:
    Wow! A long but interesting and very challenging post. Time to do some major stalking. Eziaha isn’t left out either.
    Where is your stalking taking you to?

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      February 6, 2016 at 5:37 am

      #YearOfStalking… Babe you absolutely got me there. Hahaha
      Good question really… Where us your stalking taking you to?
      Hugs sweetie

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    February 4, 2016 at 8:00 pm

    Chaii, this was a wake up call.. Thank you so much Mama E’. No more dulling, chasing the mentor.. GOD BLESS YOU Mama

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      February 6, 2016 at 5:38 am

      Yes baby. Permission to stalk… Either lowkey or full blown!!!

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    February 5, 2016 at 3:44 pm

    The insight in this post, too much for words. The word for now is CHASE!!! More grace momma. Xoxo

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      February 6, 2016 at 5:41 am

      I love you baby!!!
      Soooo much

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    February 8, 2016 at 7:44 am

    Oh! I can remember this. I was at this conference. I remember that was my first encounter with Chris. Couldn’t stop talking about her but I didn’t remember her last name. Pk couldn’t enter so he missed it all.

    She’s amazing and hilarious.
    And Yep! Mentors and fathers make the journey easier.

    Well done E. Super proud of u love. N d woman u r becoming. Like I said only believe… meeting these ladies may be sooner than u think

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      February 8, 2016 at 3:51 pm

      I’ll just frame the last part of this comment. He he

      And AMEN!!! I think I will flow very easy with Chris. It is Joyce I will probably go dumb on and forget my English. Like THE JOYCE???
      I have hunted for Chris’s full message on that day but no show. I especially wanna see how Joyce introduced her. If Joyce did.
      Mama your comment means an amazing lot to me. Thank you ma and THANK YOU!!! You are just amazing!!!

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    February 8, 2016 at 8:14 am

    Ezi this post is exact! most times I wonder if you read the minds of ur readers before doing a post Cz ur teachings per time are always absolute. To say that this blog has been a blessing to me wld be a colossal understatement.3 months and counting n am still thanking God for leading me to you.
    And Thank you so much for giving me the go ahead to continue stalking Cz “girl have I been stalking this blog?”well ur guess is as good as they come. It even scares me Cz I’d be like am I turning into a freak or wauhh?the quality of knowledge here is just awesome. Thanks for sharing

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      February 8, 2016 at 3:53 pm

      Lol at freak
      Wooooooh Pink leave me soooo
      Thank you soooo much for your sweet words.
      And Thank God.
      Sending hugs…

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    February 8, 2016 at 8:17 pm

    Ezi this post is exact! Most times I feel like u read the minds of ur readers before doing a post Cz ur teachings per time are always absolute n to say that this blog has been a blessing to me wld be a colossal understatement.3 months and counting n am still thanking God for leading me to you.
    And thank you so much for giving me the go ahead to continue stalking without reservation “Cz girl have I been stalking this blog?” well ur guess wld be as good as they come.Most times I’d be like am I turning into a freak or wauhh?The quality of knowledge here is beyond awesome.Thanks so much for sharing

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    February 15, 2016 at 11:35 am

    This is such an amazing post. Loved every bit of it.
    I laughed sometimes, hailed you some times and simply blessed God for you all the way. Ain’t even gonna try myself with a mini post herebut thanks for saying in one post the many things that we all need to be reminded of. There is so much wisdom out there and we need to put ourselves out there to find and receive it.
    There is no passive way to greatness and we can learn from those who went ahead of us how to avoid the mistakes they made. We cannot be lazy about the relationships that can build us up.
    Yippeee! Congrats on your ‘ betterer.’ thank God for the story He’s making of your life. Love ya much.

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      February 27, 2016 at 9:27 pm

      Oh my dear sister. Bless the day I met you. I love you too much. God bless you

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    June 22, 2016 at 7:34 am

    Kai E! I follow Heather too ooo!!Love love Heather so much and you are beginning to flow like her. God bless you.I was really inspired by your post. Is DCC Daystar Christian Centre?

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    M. A.
    August 23, 2019 at 8:24 am

    Thank you ma for posting this link on whatsapp, this speaks to my season right now. Reading your blogs has blessed me beyond words can explain especially in the area of mentorship.

    I have since taken to stalking mentors i cant access physically online. I appreciate you ma. I love how open you are with things you are doing that’s adding value to your life.
    Thank you ma for yielding to the Lord and to think i am reading this 3years after you posted. The practical wisdom is so refreshing.
    Love you ma

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