I recall EXACTLY where I was, holding my phone when her message dropped…
‘I’m in UCH and I am going in for a surgery…’
That was a message from a dear dear friend.
Because I know the back story of the ‘situation’ that landed her in the hospital and how we had faith’ed it all along, this statement was enough to jolt me. It didn’t help that a close friend just had same surgery a few weeks back too. I mean, not again!!!
First thing I was gonna do was panic, and then type some ‘not-so-faithFULL’ words.
What happened now?
Na wa oooo!!!
And the likes…
They sound like normal caring words abi? But NO hon, not only are they FAITHLESS, they are also fearFULL.
I mean, what would all that RUBBISH above do for someone going in for a procedure if not make her more scared or discouraged, especially if her faith is still building… Certainly not what she needed at the time.
So I paused.Then said IT IS WELL, and then shared some positive Words and testimonies with her and then asked if I could ring her.
I know ‘IT IS WELL’ sounds like a cliche for you but the popularity of that phrase hasn’t reduced its efficacy if spoken in faith.
Yup!!! Read that again!!!
THE POPULARITY OF IT IS WELL DOES NOT AND CANNOT REDUCE ITS EFFICACY WHEN SPOKEN IN FAITH!!!
This sounds so good that I should frame it.
I then proceeded to ask her if I could ring her immediately and she said yes.
And all through the long call, I made sure to speak FAITH and positive words and then gist about other good stuff that would make her laugh all through that convo till the phone cut and I called back,
because… Whatever things are lovely and of a good report…Philippians 4:8
Some of yawl need to apply the spirit of SHUT UP first before you just blurt out anything from your mouth when someone shares something with you.
In that moment of pause, ask yourself what you can say to encourage the person not discourage or frighten them.
Something interesting happened in the time between my last post on DETOX and this one. I wasn’t so sure which of my already written posts to go up next so I decided that I would just chill and let God give me a CLEAR sign. Somehow, I saw a comment on Dr. N’s series Murder at St. Lucas Hospital pt 20 which made me go back all the way to Part 1 to refresh.
I then saw this line which I had missed the HUGE lesson there earlier but which the Holy Spirit highlighted to me that night I read.
Do you see the wisdom the friend had to apply, technically THE SPIRIT OF SHUT UP, before calling Dr. Veronica? Of what use would tears have been to someone in ‘the Lion’s den’ literally? God told her to STAY OFF THE PHONE UNTIL SHE HAD A WORD!!!
Btw, go read the entire series and just be richly blessed. Especially for those of you hung up on secular blogs and all. That sister can writeeeee mehn. (Dr. N, I told ya I had more abi? Lol)
Ok, that was one sign that made me know this post was ready to go LIVE. That and another phonecall I received today which I would share at the end.
Oh I recall all the truck load of nonsense I heard from some people including believers when they heard the new phase of mamahood demanded my taking a career break and moving to Lagos to start my life over again.
Now don’t get me wrong, some of yawl/them were just being caring and wanting to make sure it was the right thing to do at the time. Bless them/you. But most people operated from a position of FEAR and *lemme not say it cos tz not nice* lol
Ah!!! How can u QUIT a UN job?
After everything… Na wa oo!!!
I don’t believe you quit just like that. Do you know how many people are looking for work in Nigeria?
Now that jobs are hard to get in Nigeria…
You know there were some comedians I even spent my time telling them my VERY VALID reasons and reminding them that
‘God brought it jare. When I am ready to get back to work, He will bring another…’
but they would go ahead to remind me of how many people are jobless in Nigeria and how this person or that person bin dey find work sinceeeee…
The funniest (and I say that tongue in cheek) has to be
WHERE WILL YOU WORK???
I mean, you think the situation is bigger than God??? You dare try to have the final say when I just gave you THE FINAL SAY from the One whose is the earth and all its fullness???
No less annoying was the fact that it was just hard for some people to just assume, just give me the darned benefit of doubt, that I knew what I was doing and then just shut da heck up!!!
I had never experienced such before so it really surprised me especially when it came from fellow believers. If I didn’t know God, it would have been overwhelming. And I must admit, it used to affect me at the beginning then especially when the whole thing was still doing me one kain. I mean, I was leaving A B U J A, my land of Milk&Money, even if for the time being.
God bless the people who always spoke faith whenever I mentioned. And I must admit, most DCC members were that way. You would only hear words of encouragement (even when we spoke casually) from them it made me so proud of the words that come from the altar. The BEST thing I have heard so far has to be
‘… but Eziaha, you NEVER loose with God…’
That came from my Abuja mama, Minister Gloria.
Settled everything!!! God bless her.
Oh and then my close friends? Amazing lot. It encouraged me that they all just believed that I had taken the BEST decision and were so full of support.
Dumebi, Eniola, Valerie, Ayo, Priceless, you ladies rock. God bless yawl!!!
And err, incase some of yawl wonder why I reduced my communication with you? Hahaha. You probably used to spew a lot of fear/discouragement from your mouth with your words. #iCant.
Sweetie. I know you have heard this a million times but it bears repitition
Words, your words even spoken at/to someone, are very powerful. Don’t be releasing nonsense and fear anyhow.
When you hear something especially when it is not exactly ‘good news’ at surface level, pause first, or like Heather will say, apply the spirit of SHUT UP. When you have mused within you and come up with an appropriate response/Word reflecting your BELIEVER TAG, only then can you speak.
Otherwise, still SHUT UP!!!
But IT IS WELL remains a very potent thing to say.
Say it and mean it, because
Even David knew when to PAUSE and apply the Spirit of SHUT UP, meditate before now speaking…
‘I will watch what I do [APPLY THE SPIRIT OF SHUT UP FIRST] and not sin with what I say… My heart was HOT within me, while I was musing (meditating), the fire burned within me, then spoke I with my tongue…...’ Psalms 39:1ff
Fearful words? No baby…
Cheers to Faith speaking, all day, err’SINGLEday!!!
Part 2 will look at this from a more personal angle- You applying the spirit of shut up to your own life. I don’t think the post is quite ready to be written so if it is not the next coupla posts, I haven’t forgotten.
Ok so that phonecall I spoke about. My friend’s baby had just turned 6months so she had her pictures splashed all over like I had KingDaveed’s.
You know how it is now, people wishing the baby a Happy 6months, telling the mama well done, etc. Only for a ‘sister’ to actually call her and say ‘Your baby is now fine. ooo When she was given birth to, she was ugly’. Azzin somebody, a mom herself, rang another mother to pay such a stupid backhanded compliment? That was the reason she picked up her phone and called me? You see why the SPIRIT OF SHUT UP is needed in large doses? How does anyone do that? A baby ooo!!! I just told my friend to be sure to CALL HER OUT. Yes, you should call out such behaviour and not just ignore it. Tell her NEVER to try that whether with you or someone else and point out the errors of her ways. She is probably ignorant or think say everything na play. Then tell her that THE SPIRIT OF SHUT UP avails. You can send anyone who needs to apply THE SPIRIT OF SHUT UP a link to this post…
Next Post is definitely going to be all about the gift I got my husband whose birthday was actually yesterday, the 6th.
He is yet to get it until he enters Lagos and he has blackmailed me with everything to tell him what is in it but I didn’t. But by the time the Post comes up, he should have gotten it and I can then share the story behind it and his reaction too… Really good stuff. Watch this space on the 10th by God’s Grace. Yes, we are on a roll on this Blog this October, I told yawl… haha
The surgery went well thank God. My friend is home, hale and hearty. Whoop!!!