Recently I asked on Twitter if it was true that till today in the year of our Lord 2014, men still throw the line ‘Get pregnant first before I marry’ and I amazingly got answers in the affirmative with most people even wondering what kinda no-brainer question that was. And frankly, it was a sincere question.
I knew such happened in the past but today, girls suppose don wise up and guys suppose don sense up…
Why did I ask? Ajoyo who blogs at http://thepassionchronicles.wordpress.com/ has been doing this series of ‘Beneath the sheet’ and tz centred around this silly guy who thinks he is God’s gift to (silly) women and so insists that you must be preggy before marriage and there were girls doing all sorts to land his ring. Serious iberibe indeed.
Y’all know how they say ‘art imitates life’ but still I just still assumed uncle A was being over imaginative.
Then wham!!! I heard and saw something. That prompted me to hit twitter and then my fears were confirmed.
Why? Oh why would any lady do this to herself. Tz bad enough that you are indulging in pre-marital sex, then for the man to INSIST that you get pg first and you agree and start doing all sorts just to get pregnant and get him to marry you?
Jesus didn’t die for this ooo. And (no pun intended) Chukwu di oooo!!!
Do you realise that
1. You can get pg and the dude will still NOT marry you?
2. You can get preggers and dude can drop dead tomorrow?
3. You can get preggers, get married to him with the pg and LOSE the pregnancy or worse still the baby post-birth?
4. You are most likely NOT the only one he is sexing so darling, you are in a cheap fertility competition?
5. All of the above and MORE!!!
To him, you are just a baby-factory and not a companion. He loves children and NOT you. So children are now the ONLY reason why we marry? So those couples who don’t have kids are incomplete? Hian.
It seems so unfair!!! Sex is NOT love ooo. Like my pastor said at the last LDM tagged CAUTION FOR SINGLES, ‘If sex is love, then prostitutes should be the best marriage and relationship counsellors now’. I truly feel we are sooooo precious to God that no man should even open his gutter to suggest pre-marital sex not to talk of knocking you up. He should be scared that you will slap him sef. It just seems really unfair.
Ladies, if he choses to degrade you, should you indulge him?
Should you sacrifice so much for a ring?
Tz very painful.
And I’m aware ladies are paying prices they shouldn’t afford to pay to land a ring?
Some ladies have moved in and are not just playing wife but playing omoodo (househelp) too.
Some ladies be putting their lives on pause, swallowing any rubbish they won’t take (from their pops or bros) from any male cockroach just to land a ring.
Some ladies are investing their money on an efulefu without any vision or drive just so he can make them Mrs.
Lemme not talk about the ones who are lying, living false lives, etc.
Some prices are too high for a ring babe. You shouldn’t afford it.
And guys, some prices are way too high to wife a woman.
I don’t even have anything more to say.
There is the right price to pay for a ring.
Anything else is just wahala you can’t afford.
That’s why I’m super excited about this month’s Love Dating and Marriage seminar at David’s Christian Centre. This Sunday, May 11, 2014 at 4.30pm.
Tagged The Price of a Ring!!!