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Let’s give ’em som’in to be proud about…

I love mentor-mentee relationships… Especially those within the kingdom. I love such phrases as…
‘…one of my sons was telling me…’
‘…my father in the faith/Lord said…’
‘…one of my mentees came to see me…’
I really look out for such phrases whenever I am listening to a message or reading a book.
I know that we can’t run this race alone without healthy associations or mentoring and I am VERY WARY of men of God who just appear from nowhere without any ‘father figure’ in their ministry… I listen to/read a good number of preachers and I can tell
‘oh, so so and so is this person’s mentor…’ and all.

I especially love when a mentor is invited to preach in a mentee’s church and I listen VERY CLOSELY to the introduction by the mentee and the opening statements by the mentor of the mentee… it gives me a beautiful idea of their relationship and I am looking for what to ‘steal’ from that. Funny yeah? Loooool… But tz wisdom…
This morning, I was listening to a message preached by Rev Femi in his own Pastor, Rev Victor Adeyemi’s church convention in my final year.

I was a part of the protocol that went with Rev and I was just smiling as I recalled all that went down as Rev Victor introduced Rev. All the glowing things one Rev said about the other and also what Rev’s wife had to say about their relationship with Rev Victor and his family… You could literally feel the honor they have for their Pastor… Ditto the love. I could also tell how immensely PROUD of Rev Femi that Rev Victor is… IMMENSELY… And trust me, I have heard Rev Victor talk PLENTY times about Rev in different meetings.
With such a ‘son’ like Rev Femi, you would be proud. Proud that God called you into ministry in the first place…
And then i thought,
‘Am I giving the mentor figures in my life something to be proud about? Can they give such a good report about me too? Is their mentorship in vain or fruitful? All the sweating they sweat on the pulpit, all the time they spend on one-on-ones, am I making them of much or no effect? Can they truly say ‘Eziaha, I am proud of you…?’

I am still answering some of those questions and making necessary adjustments…
Yesterday was my Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo’s birthday and he happens to be birthday mates with his ‘son’ who pastors DCC Abuja.

Trust me, Pastor Busayo is a son in whom the Okonkwo’s are well pleased. And judging by the love that was shown to Pastor B too, I can say DCC as a whole is well pleased in him too. I spent a month plus in DCC Abuja and Pastor B’s zeal and passion is something else. Truly, like Father like son… I really look forward to moving to Abuja and joining DCC Abuja and doing God’s work cos I have seen how this ‘son’ is as fiercely loyal to God’s work as he is to God’s servant PK.
I love that Pk can say of Pastor B,

‘This is my son in whom I am well pleased…’
Kai, all this kain tin dey sweet me. I love healthy loving vertical relationships… I especially love to study the ‘lesser’ person especially the one that Hebrews 7:7 says is being blessed as a result of honoring the ‘greater’ and in whom the greater is well pleased…
And the scripture is replete with such healthy relationships… Paul and Timothy, Joshua and Moses, Elijah and Elisha, etc. Remember I said HEALTHY not PERFECT. There are NO perfect people…
I did a lot of thinking this morning… till now.
I will still meditate on this…
I don’t want to be a lazy mentee, or one that a mentor would brand ‘unserious’. The kind that would keep coming for counsel but will still go away and do NOTHING about it…
It is FOOLISH to ignore what your FATHER taught you… Prov 15:5
I certainly don’t want to be a foolish mentee…
That foolish mentee that would see trouble coming, ignore the mentors advice and enter… or will I obey and avoid it… (Prov 22:3)
I have decided that I want to give my mentors plenty to be proud about…

Let them know that their labour over me is NOT in vain…
And just incase you are wondering why the focus is on mentors and pastors…
That is simple…
I Cor 11:1… IMITATE/FOLLOW me, just as I IMITATE/FOLLOW Christ…
My mentors FOLLOW Christ… Serious copy-copy these spiritual fathers of mine. Totally sold out. Me sef no dey shame as I dey do my own follow follow ooo…

#DontJudgeMe . (I should have titled this post FOLLOW FOLLOW)
They also take their calling and following VERY seriously because they know they are accountable to the Boss, God!!!
Heb 13:17… Obey your LEADERS and FOLLOW their orders. They watch over your souls without resting knowing that they MUST give God an ACCOUNT of their SERVICE…

So tge onus is now on YOU to FOLLOW the right fathers and mentors…

If you go follow blind mentor, na ditch you go enter ooo (Matt 15:!4). And you won’t give God som’in to be proud about…
Your call…

Oh btw, tz two months today

and “I’M STILL DO” too

Signing those dotted lines? BEST decision of my LIFE (after being born-again of course…). We are caps off grateful dear God…

And with both of us FOLLOWING these couple mentors as they IMITATE Christ even in their marriages, you can be sure that this walk/work will keep getting better and better… And we will continue to enjoy THE MARRIAGE OF OUR DREAMS… Amen.

My testifier tomorrow is another ‘follow-follow’ woman. I love her to smithereens… And tomorrow is such a special day in her life… YAY!!! Can’t wait…

And seriously, thank you to the F.A.B community for all your support and loving… keep spreading the link to the blog. Tz pretty easy www.eziaha.com
And so is my besties blog www.dumebie.com
Booski kicked off her blog just a couple of weeks ago and she has upgraded to dotcomtinz. If you are still on a www.???.WORDPRESS.com and you started blogging eons ago, COVER YOUR FACE!!! :p
Yes I am yabbing you… y’all know yourselves…
And yup, my email is now
If you are a blogger on a dotcom level and you need a customized email address, holla. Tz free btw…
You are welcome…


Going Forward… Still Testifying

Just as I put finishing touches to this post, Priceless pings me to harass me cos I haven’t updated the blog, asking me if I have sold it.

So I said I will yab her… so this is me yabbing her… FOLLOW FOLLOW…
Ah Priceless and her hubby are confirmed FOLLOW FOLLOW too ooo. Amazing couple. I love the BUNDLES… Her testifying post is also loading…
Oh btw, I already mentioned that I have OVER 31 voices already right… Yup. So entries closed… thank you for understanding


First LDM comes up this Sunday at 4.30pm

Where PK gets all these titles is indeed between him and God… hehehe.
If you are in Lagos, please attend. DCC is in Amuwo Odofin. Call 080777714411 for all the details you need…


You guys thought I was cooking up a storm abi? Pastor M cooked up a tornado yesterday while I was waiting for a blog post…

Woman of God (and hubby) keep moving the goal post…
I wish I visited. 🙁
BTW, watch out on www.justusgirlsnaija.com this Sunday morning. The post would be live then… Tz also Pastors appreciation day…

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  • Reply
    January 30, 2014 at 7:04 pm

    This post reeks of wisdom! Healthy vertical relationships count in the scheme of things. Funny, my fellowship’s founding pastor said something in that light on Tuesday. Thank you for sharing.

    “Still Do dey go”

    Wow,Dumebi just challenged me with her upgrade. Great!

    #okbye… Blessings!

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      January 31, 2014 at 9:31 pm

      Still do dey gooooooooo
      Thanks hun

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      January 31, 2014 at 9:32 pm

      Btw u need to start blogging first before talking of upgrading :p

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    January 31, 2014 at 8:53 am

    So true Eziaha and Lizzie…
    When I read this line: ‘Obey your LEADERS and FOLLOW their orders. They watch over your souls without resting knowing that they MUST give God an ACCOUNT of their SERVICE…’ it gave me goose bumps …
    For every leader (be it temporal, spiritual) teacher (be it in Church, school) is accountable to God…
    May we earnestly pray for our leaders and teachers, parents and guardians, pastors and priests, churches and homes… The responsibilities we all have is enormous… Someone out there, even if it is the homehelp is watching us and doing follow follow as E’ has said.
    May God give us the grace to be faithful mentors and mentees so that on that glorious day we may say;
    Jesus Christ, YOU are my reward, to see your face and hear your voice is all I’ve lived for… And HE with HIS golden voice will say, ‘Come, beloved of my Father, in you I am well pleased’ amen.
    Love and peace Fab’ers+++

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      January 31, 2014 at 9:35 pm

      NNE truly ooo
      Amen Amen
      Even we should see ourselves as mentors cos we are to some people and so we should give em som’in to be proud about and emulate in us…
      Thanks for the slant you brought here

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    January 31, 2014 at 10:19 am

    Nne finally, a read 4sore eyes.

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      January 31, 2014 at 9:35 pm


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    January 31, 2014 at 10:20 am

    Nne finally, a read / post 4sore eyes.

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    February 1, 2014 at 5:33 am

    Sorry E, but the highlight of this post for me was “5* meal of prawns in coconut milk, peppered snails, stir fry chicken.” You mentors are not dulling, I see! 😀

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      February 1, 2014 at 8:26 am

      No dulling ooo
      And that wasn’t all ooo. Twitter no gree am talk everything.
      But she will share recipes with me when I am ready 🙂

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    Sisi Blu
    February 3, 2014 at 8:05 am

    Omo! One of the classic posts that must to be saved utunu.

    Follow me as I follow Jesus!

    “They also take their calling and following VERY seriously because they know they are accountable to the Boss, God!!!” – BOOM!


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    February 4, 2014 at 7:47 pm

    deep truth(s) in this post….thanks for writing!

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      February 8, 2014 at 6:06 pm

      Thanks for reading 🙂

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    February 7, 2014 at 8:20 pm

    One tin led2 anoda n I found masef here. I love diz blog n am hapi I found it..!

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      February 8, 2014 at 7:02 am

      Thanks hun

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    October 17, 2015 at 4:31 pm

    Seemed like I dug deep to find this post, truth is I needed the conviction that comes with this post, to step up my game and be that kinda mentee that my mentors cum pastors can look at and saay yes Dee, Ayam proud of you. Bless you momma.
    Dat line you talked about listening very closely to the intro of the lesser bout the greater caught me…. hmmmn.

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      October 19, 2015 at 1:08 pm

      Had to read the post again
      May reblog it cos tz sooo true!!!
      Even now, still so true

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