It was hard because I knew it held the power to change our friendship (or what was left of it) forever.
The fact that it rang without her picking about three times made subsequent attempts even harder.
But I had to make that call.
I thought I’ll put it all out in a message but aside from that being a rather wimpy way out, I knew my anger would come more to bear in text rather than voice.
I had thought about this decision for at least 4days. Aside giving me time to simmer, I also needed to be sure I was doing the right thing.
Check. Check. On both counts.
So I rang Chinma up…
And listed out all her many sins (LOL) and told her why I had to do what I did. Phone call over…
It was her response on BBM that killed me.
Chinma knows how to apologize. And save a friendship. At that point the ball was more in her court than mine. Actually I pushed the ball there. Hehehe.
She apologized. She threw in a few good natured jokes (She did the PS and PPS’s I usually do LOL. She said the ‘but you should know me now’
She said she didn’t know she was ‘over stepping her boundary’
And she did me a super most generous offer afterwards. Even though I turned down the offer, I was super swooned she would even offer.
Post that event, Chinma worked on our friendship. She reached out to me. Still teased me often. And basically was sweet with sprinkles of naughty.
It taught me a huge huge lesson on ‘keeping relationships’
I must admit, I kinda had decided that if we go south after that phonecall, so be it.
Thank you my darling for making this work. You deserve all the credit.
Please follow me as I take you back about 5months…
I had just had the most amazing Saturday in Abuja. First Jabi lake for evangelism for LDM in Abuja, then Utako for amala with my DCC Abuja fam (I recall PK asking ‘how was the amala, sorry evangelism? Lol), then the Utako market, then FGGC Bwari for visiting day with JMAD and SomSom. The day ended on a high with the most amazing sumptuous Grilled fish which Uncle V bought for us. As I returned home to Apo, I got a text from Cheech.
Obviously livid. She listed out all my many SINS and took a decision.
I don’t think it was two days. Cheech pinged me, wanted to talk about it, apologized for her harsh words and accusation, gave me an opportunity to explain myself, and wanted us to remain friends.
Then she said something like ‘I have thought about it and realized that you had good intentions and wanted the best for me plus I can’t stay mad at you
You have to be humble to do that. Fact is she could have justified her anger and ANYONE would have understood. She didn’t need to do that. Chinma forgave and quick too. Even I was shocked.
I don’t wanna be tempted to think its because of me. Mba. Chinma has a beautiful heart.
Friendship is not always so rosy. The strength of friendship lies in the fact that you can pick up and continue even after a disagreement. Even two good people may not always see eye to eye on everything. But still, friendship can work.
Thank you my darling!!! For teaching me the price of TRUE friendship. Especially in a time when commitment is waning and each pursues their own good.
Your credit is good with me baby. God bless you. I love you too much.
Happy birthday Sugar. By the next, anyi g’ana akwado I dupu gi n’ulo di gi.
This FAB look wasteth…
Kiss Kiss. Smooches. Hugs. The whole works.
I think Chinma has magical powers. This is my second blogpost dedicated to her. Two consecutive birthdays. Infact I have never done a whole post for anyone before. Not even Le Boo. I have tried at several times to do this for different people but it didn’t flow.
Cheech oya confess.
Find the first one here
Next year, I’m NOT doin this. Ha ahn!!! What’s that?PPPS
Cheech je bido Believers class and join a unit. The babe now comes to my church whooooop. But she is yet to do our Membership class. O foro ka m pia gi utali… Mschewwwww.
You owe me an outing. Pay up already. Don’t let me embarrass you ooo. Hehehehehehe