One whole week Eziaha, and two days!!!
Ife no m n’aka (stuff I have to do) Phew… Anyways this post was really not s’poz to come up next but hey, I’m on my way to work, and listening to Inspiration FM on my brand new android. A lil’ on the android… About a thousand of us were given BRAND NEW ANDROID or BB phones at a Youth and ICT program last friday.
The program is put together annually by the Jim Ovia foundation.
I would do a proper and complete post on that.
Oh did I mention it came with a free one year subscription. Yup it did. I’m also blogging from the android. Whoop!!!! #OneBlessedn’Fabchica#
Ok back to the radio show. I’m very interested in kids esp teenagers. I’ve worked with and mentored quite a few especially in university.
Today, I work in an uppity secondary school and I interact with teenagers a lot.
My personal NYSC project has a whole arm focused on teens. (More on it later too).
The program had a lady from ‘Focus on the family’ and she was sharing her experience.
Had an abortion or so, and again in the middle of another pregnancy, she decides she won’t abort this one. Long story short, she and the dude later got married and today God uses them amazingly especially in the area of family and stuff. I found that inspiring. In Jakes ‘the lady,her lover and her lord’, Jakes mentions how we are healed from our hurt to MINISTER to others who find themselves in similar situation. Such persons are even the best to minister. But what I found more interesting was what happened to her daughter. I mean this lady, as we can imagine, trained her kids in the way of God absolutely. But her teenage daughter came home one day to announce that she is PREGGERS…
I mean here was momma practically a pastor with a focus on family values, with a teenage preggy daughter. Oh my!!!
Naturally, lady and hubby asked themselves many questions… ‘Where did we go wrong?’ ‘How do we explain this?’ Etc. The lady said something I found very profound, she said ‘Kids have choices. Yes you have done your part as a parent training them in the way of God but sometimes they still make the wrong choices. So parents should not fall into the trap of blaming themselves for wrong choices their kids may make.’ She actually spoke to her daughter and her husband (yup she too later married the guy) and they both agreed that they knew way better than the choices of pre-marital sex which they made. For me, this is a whole message there. I mean I have a very personal connection to this. Sorry can’t share. Basically parents should play their part, and pray too that their kids would really ‘not depart from it when they grow.’ But should they, we should be careful in apportioning blame to the parents. Granted, some parents need intense ‘parenting 101 to 901’ classes on raising godly kids, but some parents really do their best, yet… So how did this story end? Her daughter and hubby are today in ministry… Sharing their story and touching lives as they spread word on positive family values. Another thing I found interesting was that through that period, the lady stuck with her daughter and said to her ‘we will pull through this together and you will be fine’. Some parents think that is the period to beat hell outta d girl. That doesn’t always work. At that point too, she and her hubby had to share their own story with their kids… The abortion, the pregnancy, their marriage, etc. That for her was the right time to. Which brings me to timings. With kids, there are ‘right times’ ooo. Definitely. Certain kinds of information should NOT be shared at the wrong time. Effect could be disastrous. A man explains it this way… When his kids ask him a question he feels they shouldn’t know about yet, he illustrates by asking such a kid to lift up a really heavy box. When he/she can’t, he says ‘it is the same way this information is too heavy for you now. You can’t handle it just yet’. You know parents can have their issues and for goodness sake, keep it away from ’em kids. Last week,my friend told me about a teen student attempted suicide by overdosing after she saw her dad beat her mom blue black in her presence. Very sad story. Parenting goes beyond having sex and giving birth. Parents need a lot o’ wisdom and counsel. Get wisdom please. And I say this to even intending parents. Like myself.
A wise (wo)man Stores up knowledge afterall. Again, get and store wisdom on parenting for when you would need it. Have a blessed week ahead. And please visit and share word about my www.iseegreenng.wordpress.com blog. NYSC Fantastic stuff going on there… Tell Corps members you know too.