There’s a Part 1 here
#PropheticMotherhood… What DDK said
This series builds up so start from there aii?
Pastor Dotun Arifalo is the ‘Father’ over the ministry, Deborah Initiative for Women. She basically got me born again all over AGAIN!!!
I didn’t believe all that was coming out of that woman!!!
Let’s just jump in…
Every woman is a PROPHET!!! The prophetic anointing is on me as a woman so it means there is limitless power in my WORDS!!!
Hello all the women/mamas jumping from prophet to prophet to ‘see’ for them. You are a PROPHET hun!!! Beyond speaking LIFE into my children, I can speak life into my husband, into his dreams, into my ideas, into my business, etc. I use my words to create/birth what I sense in my heart and because my words are anointed, I have to be very careful what I speak. I can speak life or I can speak death. I can be a wife or a knife!!!
Being a woman is an OFFICE!!! It is an ORDINATION!!! I can stand in that office and declare things and heaven MUST answer.
I can give life to things beyond children and the entire power lies in my words.
As a woman, I am both a King maker (as I take those seeds in me and make kings of them) and a KING and kings declare so I have to make sure I ain’t using my mouth to talk nonsense or nag.
My words are very powerful.
She also took some time to speak to the Singles.
The greatest gift you can give yourself is the gift of the right man
Don’t go and hook up with someone who will make you start speaking nonsense words ooo.
As a prophetic mother, MOMMY MINISTRY is NOT your ONLY ministry. So as I raise my kids, I should NOT pack up my life permanently.
And permit me to unpack this a bit with the Proverbs 31 woman as God explained it to me one morning.
I was having this convo with God some 3weeks back about Full time stay-at-home mama’s. I actually believe I have an assignment for women in that category and my inbox confirms it (yawl keep writing me). I felt He was telling me that being a FT stay-at-home mom AND NOTHING ELSE is not exactly ALL that He wants for His women and so He got me to draw a line in my journal and open Proverbs 31 in various versions.
On one side, I filled in her jobs in the home and the other side, her jobs outside the home.
I then realised that indeed, that Chick excelled BOTH as a homemaker/domestic queen and a Career woman.
That day, I was CONVINCED that really ehn, your life MUST count for more than just you, your husband and your kids. Yes there are times when you may wanna FOCUS on your home (and i’ll dwell a bit on that with the 3rd speaker Nneka Kyari) but honey, as a woman, you have been called to MUCH MORE!!!
As a woman, you can NOT afford to be weak!!! You birth what you are. It is in your genes, strength or weakness. A weak woman will birth weak children. A strong woman will birth strong children. Raising a child is like raising an ARMY!!! You have to be STRONG!!!
Ok, you need to go back and read that again!!!
Woman, YOU BIRTH WHO YOU ARE!!!
There is a difference between a child growing up and a child being raised!!! Some children just grow up, some are RAISED!!! We need to be intentional and consciously RAISE our kids. You are a custodian of destiny. You can’t do it casually.
Aunty, it is advisable to wait some time after marriage to born ehn.
PLAN for ’em kids. Get enough emotional support. Be READY!!! You don’t have to jump from wife to mother immediately. Build your relationship with your husband first. Groom yourself for the journey. Build capacity before you bring forth. It is a HUGE job.
Remember, who you are is who you birth ooo.
Again, don’t pack up your life permanently to raise your kids. Beyond being known as Bolaji Olojo’s wife or ‘mama KingDaveed’ (and side eye to yawl who call me that), I need to be a mama of many other things beyond children ooo. There are ministries, business ideas, etc waiting to be birthed through me!!!
Today’s women WORK beyond housework ooo.
Dear woman, Get Help.
Leverage on every opportunity you get/God has given. FOCUS on doing what only you can do and outsource what others can do for you. Cooking and cleaning and being spent from these activities such that you don’t even spend quality time pouring into your kids can’t help anybody ooo. You will just be frustrated and resentful and tired meanwhile the real job has not been done. And might I add that spending time on Telemundo and co because you have Help can NOT help anybody too. Raise up and call forth the LEADER in your kids.
Tz beyond cooking and cleaning.
And tz definitely beyond Telemundo and Zee world.
Quick question: if you do NOT cook personally, will the world come down? NO!!!
But will the world come down if you do NOT RAISE your kids? Pretty much YES!!! Your own world will come down.
Your kids ought to see you both as mom AND mentor/role model. Teach your kids to approach the world with a problem solving mentality.
Take your kids with you on spiritual journies. Let them see you pray, study the Word, and live for Jesus!!!
Let them learn how to pray from watching and hearing you. Not everytime Telemundo and Africa Magic or TRACE!!!
Stop joking dear woman!!! The devil you are not paying attention to is paying MAJOR attention to you.
(that’s from DDK anyways I dunno why I added it here but, HERE, you can have it)
Brainwash your kids with the Word from a young age.
Teach them values, life skills, marriage, relationships, etc.
Train them to discern so they don’t marry wrong. Let your marriage be THE blueprint for them. The stuff I put into my kids is the stuff they produce. Use the creative power of my words to frame it all together.
Keep laying hands on them.
You, my darling are a Prophet!!!
Oh this next point chilled me, and then pumped me.
She said the reason some of us are not running to our parents a lot is that they are not mentor figures to us. We just grew up. We were not RAISED!!!
There’s nothing really to learn from them. (and that’s not a reason to not visit ooo). You mama, have to live your life in such a way that generations after you can NOT forget you. You know how the Bible says ‘…one generation shall tell the next of YOUR faithfulness…’ ehen. Let one generation tell the next generation that there was an Eziaha who no one can stop talking about.
Your impact down generations should neither be denied or erased.
You are a trailblazer, woman!!!
Be a TRAILBLAZER!!!
Let your kids arise and call you BLESSED!!! Please give your ALL in raising your kids, and that involves birthing the other dreams God has given you. Do it for your generation. Any battle you do not win, you will transfer. Let some nonsense STOP in your lineage because of you and your prayers.
Until you begin to do that, you are ORDINARY!!!
Lemme just round up this post with this
Mama, you are LIMITLESS!!!
See ehn, raising kids is awesome. I actually believe it is my primary responsibility. Primary, but NOT only!!! You don’t wanna conquer ‘out there’ and fail as a mom.
You also don’t wanna be a WIFE and MOM and NOTHING else!!!
Lisa Bevere and Christine, on the platform of ‘Propel Women’ talk about the ‘Emerging woman’ a lot. God wants an emerging of a woman whose life is INTEGRATED. Whole!!! It is NOT an either-or, it is a BOTH thing. A woman who wants her life to count for something beyond her!!!
Something for the benefit of mankind!!! These women understand SEASONS in life.
I talked about my seasons here too. I had my FT stay-at-home mama season and frankly, what God did for me then was building capacity!!! What I thought was a low-output season was a ‘root deepening’ season. And maybe a season of REST too like my bestie Valerie told me on Sunday when I told her I was tired and all. As a woman, you need to be UNSTUCK, be able to maximise each season and then MOVE gracefully from one season to the next as God leads you.
If all you are doing now screams ‘low productivity’, I promise you, with the help of the Holy Spirit, you can make that season work for you and prepare you for the next season. But if you let your life be encumbered with Africa Magic and Telemundo, you can NOT hear God.
See this Propel woman, Alli Worthington, she’s easily my favourite on the Panel.
Years and years and years (over 10years) as a FT mom, raising 5 boys (she said her and her husband were just ‘enjoying themselves’ and wham!!! 5boys!!!) but today, she’s Exec Director at PropelWomen, Author, Speaker, Entrepreneur etc and she did NOT stop being a wife and mom as she took on these other responsibilities BUT instead being a stay-at-home MOM enriched her life in such a way that as that season morphed into another, she took lessons from there and is doing a MOST brilliant job in this season and inspiring loads of women around the world including ME!!!
One of you who came for Warrior in heels should transcribe na. Epp us. Haha. I’m still amazed by DDK. I’m reading one of her books THE SCRIPT and what it is doing to me is beyond Words.
Please don’t despise any season. God can work with anything if we give it to HIM!!! Like Alli said, take care of what’s in front of you right now faithfully. God has a plan!!! Follow it and not the world’s. He will take you into your next season soon enough.
Honey, you can do MORE than birthing kids. You can BIRTH much more!!!
And this is a good place to end ‘…what Pastor Dotun said…’
And the final speaker was Nneka Kyari!!!
Soft spoken and yet deeeeeeepppp!!! A woman who took a season of her life by the lapels, fought the battle against infertility, won it, and morphed into another season and is liberating lots of other women!!!
Eeeeeeeek!!! Nneka was my fave because she taught me something I will NEVER forget.
That post is READY too!!! Come back tomorrow!!!
Plus I have a BIG announcement at the end of Part 3.
Think… download, use for 30days, repeat, share… I can’t wait to birth that!!! Anybody wanna guess???
See you soooooooooooon!!!