OK The time is about 5.19am. Bath and quiet time in the bag already. Family devotion starts at 6.40am so I have a few minutes to post this before prayer time. Let’s see how fast this goes… It is supposed to be a short one based on what happened to me yesterday evening.
I am on this group on whatsapp where we are supposed to be ‘ambassadors’ of a certain message. Creating awareness generally and making people DO SOMETHING.
I am somewhat passionate about it and so whenever the group gets quiet every once in a while and I feel like people are not DOING as much as they should be, I start gingering them. I give progress reports about how far I have gone, mistakes I have made that they should not make as they come along, and practical stuff that can help them and us all achieves the goals for which we joined the group.
Yesterday, I got back from work and settled into eating some ice cream,
and I went to the group, sharing stuff with them because I somehow noticed that we were going silent on the primary reason why we came together, discussing other stuff more. As I was bringing my ginger and mojo on, about two people responded and then one of the two messaged me privately. She asked if she could ask me a question. ‘Of course darling, shoot’ I said.
And she asked… ‘Are you a proud person?’
I laughed first and I decided to see where this was going to. Bear in mind that most of us didn’t know each other prior to like above two months or so ago when we met. I decided to answer her.
‘At all love, why would I be? And why did you ask?’ She said NOTHING, I just asked.
I probed further and she said that she kinda overheard some people talking about it at the last meeting we had about two days ago.
Then I told her the last I said on the matter.
I have an idea of who that is. Infact, I am pretty sure.
Let me tell you something about myself.
I am a VERY busy woman on a mission and with a purpose, and as such, I do not let anyone trifle with my time.
Sadly, I have a lot of people who try so hard to get my attention and when they do, they start to discus the funniest of stuff I have absolutely NO interest in. Trust me, it gets really frustrating because sometimes, it is your own dream and you think you can get Eziaha to buy into it and help you achieve it but I always make it clear that while I do not have a problem with your dreams and aspirations, I really cannot buy into it because it doesn’t line up with mine. I say it simply, smilingly, lovingly, with a lot of endearments, but also FIRMLY.
When it comes to matters of life and destiny, you can NOT be emotional about it please. In the same way, I say that if you have ‘friends’ or wanna be friends who desperately wanna join your inner circle, and you think this person is NOT headed where you are, please let them know. Keep people at their level in your life. Don’t close the door, don’t burn bridges, don’t be PROUD and all haughty about it because you know that YOU ARE WHAT YOU ARE JUST BECAUSE OF GRACE, but by all means do NOT try to satiate someone’s ego or ‘not make someone feel bad’ and so do what ordinarily you don’t wanna do. So you have to respond to and sustain every winding BBM convo just because…? No baby, do yourself and your generation a favor and invest time rather than waste it.
Time is precious. If you spend time being with people that are not adding to you, you have lost that time and only GRACE can redeem it.
Moreover, if you are a person of purpose and on a journey, you are pretty much gonna be like this. Where you make sure that you can account for the lives around you and how you invest your time. You will enjoy your life no doubt and will be an achiever, all other things being equal.
But there is a price… lol
People will call you PROUD.
I understand that there is a dearth of young persons who are focused from a young age so when we see one who is standing out from the crowd, we label the person PROUD, POMPOUS, OVERBEARING, I TOO KNOW, and all such. Especially when the person is female. Sadly. I recall in my 300level in school when we had to study the SOCIOLOGY OF FEMINISM. We were to pick out a few people in class to discus it and as much as I like to talk and participate in classwork, feminism, at least the way it was discussd then, held absolutely no interest for me and so I didn’t volunteer. But no, my classmates all volunteered me. Especially because the lecturer asked for a FEMINIST. Looool. I was anything but a Feminist. Like I said, going by the funny ideas and definition especially of Radical feminism.
To them, a feminist was anyone woman who decided that she was gonna BE THE BEST despite the limitations of society especially as regards inequality and stuff, which interestingly we were also learning then.
Because I had dared to BE. Haba.
If you can relate to the above, I have one advice. I heard this from my Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo who heard it from one of his mentors in ministry, I think Bishop. When I say Bishop, you gotta know that I mean THE BISHOP OYEDEPO. It is simple
NO ATTACK, NO DEFENCE, JUST KEEP MOVING…
You can’t stop to fight all the people saying that. I heard Joel Osteen say something once. He said we should PICK OUR BATTLES. Not every fight is worth it please. And I have heard several great men and women say this same thing in different ways.
If you are on ‘the other side’, please note, A healthy self esteem and confidence is NOT pride. Deal with your insecurities. Looool.
OK I continued this after prayers. Had to stop for prayers. By the way, Poju Oyemade is my every morning tonic on STV. That dude preaches mehn… and he foineeee… Now let me post and dash off to work…Time check 6.45am
By the way, I am so excited. A friend I met off my blog, fellow blogger and my ‘half namesake’ is visiting with me today. Her name is ‘kaego… That’s what completes my name EziahaKAEGO. Can’t wait to host you Sugar.
And special shout out to ‘one of my biggest blog fans’ and ‘one of my three superstars in church’ Diche. She is now on my BBM and she is so much fun to have on board. We had a good time discussing secondary school kids yesterday. Hug hug…
Finally before I dash off, are you a Corper or do you know any Corper, my latest blogpost is on HOW NYSC CAN LAND YOU YOUR DREAM JOB. www.iseegreenng.wordpress.com . Trust me, you will be doing yourself/them a HUGE favor by reading it and sharing word. I shared amazing ways that can happen and this is just part one. And I have a special offer there too. You wanna skip over. It would help you too if you are not a Corper…
Thank me later…
Oh and just incase you are asking, I am definitely NOT proud!!! If you recognize GRACE at work, you can’t be proud. I recognize God’s grace at work in my life.
My ride to work is here…
Have a fantastic BE THE BEST YOU CAN BE day Sweeties.
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